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Tracey Henley's avatar

You rock, girl. Im sure you’ll get crap for this, but I know you’ll ignore and keep fighting for good. ❤️

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Tracey Henley's avatar

Frankly, I’m sure your opinion troubles Gabrielle not at all. And if you think I’m going to fight with you over a post from July 2023, you should think again.

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Cathi Eubanks's avatar

Damn- I love that you say things we all didn’t know we were thinking, and certainly couldn’t articulate. Your ‘nothing is sugarcoated’ writing inspires…

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Maike Susanna's avatar

It's always a pleasure reading how you point out the obvious and make it undeniable clear to everyone who can think and read. Thank you for sharing your brilliant mind with us. This is so good.

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Liz Welsh's avatar

So much truth so early in the morning is invigorating ❤️‍🔥

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Kelly's avatar

This is all deadly accurate. Men hate women. A very large group of cis het men despise all women. We’ve all dated a man who hated us. Some of us (me) have dated multiple men who hated them. No support. No kindness. No celebration of my accomplishments. I was there to serve and carry him. I could go on. It’s easy to see when we look calmly back with clear eyes and maturity. Patriarchy and mysogyny are woven deeply. You have hit exactly what it all comes down to. They need to control, harm, shrink, and diminish us. Whether they consciously realize it or not doesn’t change the truth.

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Alice Markowitz's avatar

What a brilliant post, Gaby. I've never before seen this laid out quite so bare & it makes perfect sense. Lightbulb moment.

I imagine that much violence directed against those who identify as women is by cismen who cannot bear seeing any weak qualities (identified as feminine) in themselves. Women die because of their self hatred.

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Francoise Girard's avatar

This is right on the mark, Gabrielle. Misogyny is at the root of our societies, families, cultures. Absolutely foundational.

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Amelia Wilson's avatar

WOW! Straightforward, honest, unapologetic, and thoughtful. Thank you for writing this and for not shying away from pointing out the truth that many people do not want to think about or acknowledge. It is very helpful to provide reasons for the generalized "hate" that is dressed up as "morality," "Christianity," "family values," and "the way things should be." THANK YOU

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Courageous Man's avatar

Christianity and family values are good. Progressive leftist and LGBT non binary values however are nothing but hatred and misogyny that seek to undo women's rights by allowing men in female spaces and defending Islamic groups like Hamas which say raping women is ok. That's the hill you want to die on? Wow

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Courtney Z's avatar

I’m not following— how is being accepting of progressive ideals and LGBTQ people supporting Hamas? This is a wild reach.

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Lill's avatar

Your last few paragraphs about rights and internalized misogyny really hit the mark. I spit my coffee at your opening premise, of course yes, that’s it!

Your ‘If A then B’ arguments hold solid. What’s the new word going to be? I’ll be pondering and watching for suggestions in comments. Thanks for your bold fireworks today

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Elizabeth Matzen's avatar

Wow - it makes so much sense, yet I’ve never thought of it that way. Thank you for your thought-provoking writing. Humanity needs your voice.

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Nancy Lenehan's avatar

Brilliant. You often open my eyes. Thank you so much.

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Susan Smith's avatar

Maybe your best post ever. Thank you!

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Talita's avatar

I agree with everything. I think that hetero cis men also fear they might be approached by other guys they same way they think it is ok to accost women. Which goes back to your point, being a woman or be treated like a woman is the worst think for them

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Kathy Bresnahan's avatar

Once again you have cut to the heart of the matter!

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Kristie Bell's avatar

Truth bombs! You are so brilliant. Thank you.

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Pam B's avatar

It's often said that a lot of GOP issues are projection, and I appreciate your articulation on this one. The 'protect our children' mantra from the same people who refuse commonsense gun laws? So, you want to protect children some of the time, on some issues, but are fine with the awareness that we are all sitting ducks whenever we leave our homes (or even, stay at home)? Make it make sense!

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