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KKPNW's avatar

G, I hope so much this bout is on the fade out. Much love for your effort and good work, both the seen and unseen kind.

I wanted to comment on the way mothers are talked about or portrayed. I think young mothers is a different portrayal/vibe than older mothers—mothers-in-law, grandmothers, moms of adult kids.

When my oldest was headed toward adulthood and I started to identify more with the older moms, I realized what a raw end of the deal is aging motherhood. Our kids who we’ve sacrificed body and soul to protect and grow their bodies and souls, now find our interest in their welfare annoying or at best cute like a *pat*pat* on the head.

I started realizing that the creators of so much culture content were young or men and had very little understanding what’s it’s like to be asked to move on from such an intense, crucial life’s work. A lot of thoughtless cultural commentary is on how unattractive our old bodies are or how annoying that mom has called again to see how things are going. It’s incredibly sad.

I think a HUGE amount of applause goes to all the aging moms who have for generations transitioned gracefully from being life-necessary to “thanks but no thanks” and haven’t put up such a stink as I feel like making about being relegated to the back.

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Heidi's avatar

Thank you for this. My 17 yr old son has decided to forego a prestigious summer program over summer, for what we thought was no reason. After a lot of questions, he finally blurted out, lip trembling, red face, eyes tearing...”ok, how about this. I’ve been depressed all year and I cannot fathom more school until I am well.” I knew he was struggling, but did not realize how much, I’m not sure he even knew what to call it until recently. This public conversation, Naomi Osaka, you...are helping us help each other.

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