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Kathleen's avatar

I felt so seen reading the graphic story about the cost of breastfeeding. My youngest is almost 9 so it's been a while for me but it did bring back a lot of memories of the immense amount of TIME I spent breastfeeding, especially in those early months, along with the toll it took on my sleep and overall health. The extra food, the supplies, the mastitis. It really was the equivalent of a full-time job for a few months after I had each of my children. I wish I had read something like this when I first became a mother - I'm glad new moms today that choose to/are able to breastfeed perhaps feel more validated than I did about all the various costs of breastfeeding. On the flip side, I used formula for my third child after experiencing health issues that drastically decreased my milk supply and my heart breaks for all the moms out there trying to find formula for their babies right now.

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Sarah D's avatar

Yes to this info on breastfeeding! I am on month 22 of breastfeeding my daughter and I (most of the time) love it AND it is also hard and when she was little and nursing exclusively took a lot of time. Absolutely no one should feel bad about not being able to breastfeed or for simply not wanting to. Your baby will be fine no matter how you feed them.

I'd like to add, since it's not commonly talked about--dysphoric milk ejection reflex (https://www.healthline.com/health/breastfeeding/dysphoric-milk-ejection-reflex#definition) is a real thing and can cause some very intense negative feelings while breastfeeding.

It is a physiological occurrence caused (they think) by an intense drop in dopamine at let down (dopamine drops somewhat during the 'normal' letdown process as part of the flow of oxytocin, but with DMER is a more intense drop). Feelings usually last for 30 seconds or a minute or two just around let down and can range from mild sadness or irritation to intense self-loathing, anger, and even suicidal thoughts. So for anyone reading this who has experienced this, or who knows someone who mentions 'feeling weird' when breastfeeding--this is a real thing, you aren't crazy, and it is completely ok to prioritize your own mental health and stop nursing if you want to! I also found that just knowing what was happening to me helped me to manage it--so hopefully this info helps others.

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